It's Time to Take Back April! Autism Acceptance Day and Month. 2017: Two events- April 1-15 going on NOW at https://www.facebook.com/events/228936064515212/, and second half of the month event here: and https://www.facebook.com/events/588631584829848/ ACTUAL ACCEPTANCE, not "tolerance," not "I accept you but not your autism." The intention is *radical* acceptance, not ABA, not compliance training, not "fitting in," unless we make that decision on our own.
daily I see a post on my timeline or my inbox telling me about the HUGE
changes in the quality of their lives by parents who decided to embrace
neurodiversity and step away from th pity-cure mindset. It is like
magic. Make no mistake that your child picks up on how you feel and if
you feel pity, fear, shame, so will your child.
presented with children who the world has given up on. Doctors,
teachers, parents believe that their only option is jail or
institutionalization. The fix for these kids is always the same. They
need to STOP being taught how broken they are and START being told how
to accept and then advocate for themselves. But they cannot accept
themselves until they meet others who accept them because a decade or
more of seeing the world as against them is taking a toll. A toll too
hard to overcome without a strong acceptance message.
Every NT caregiver or friend of ASD person should spend about 10 hours of focused
reading/effort on the Wrong Planet site as well. Look at the
depression, the sadness that comes from a life time of being told how
their ways of being is socially wrong or (in the words of Socially
Thinking ) unexpected.
When I go out into the Autistic
community I meet people who have great gifts to give this world. They
are unable to give these gifts and most of them are under or unemployed.
It isn't because they have nothing to give the world but that they are
unable to give these things due to their low self esteem, the world
pushing them away or both.
If you like the odds of 80%
unemployment, continue the memes. If you want to change these odds,
become an ally. Teach your children that they are okay just as they
are. The most challenging part of parenting a special needs child is
really teaching that child to have high self esteem in a world designed
to tear him down.